HOW TO SUBDUE DEPRESSION

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So, I decided to share my story how I strived with depression and how I overcame it. So, if you are depressed - this will help a great deal.

 What is depression?
First and foremost what is "depression". Depression according to Wikipedia means "a state of low mood and aversion to activity that can affect a person's thoughts, behavior, feelings, and sense of well-being". 

 How my depression started?

I woke up that fateful day and since I had no lectures that morning; I was in my room discussing with a room mate when a big bro of mine came looking for me. He sweet mouthed me, gave me several lectures upon lectures for me to invest in his so-called business. He told me I could always get my money back whenever I wanted it. So, I sent him the money (a huge sum of money in my account; I’m sorry I’m not disclosing the amount) which was my very last then. Later in the day, he gave me a form I filled and I was happy I invested my money not knowing I made a big mistake. He told me after my registration, he’s going to monitor the account for days before handing it over to me. Days turned into months, he didn’t tell me anything and I asked him what is happening and he told me to relax.  After 3 months, I walked up to him to challenge him and he told me  stories that touches the heart. 
I was still trying to figure this out, when I remembered another brother who I gave some amount of money to keep as my bro na (What happen with this second bro was that I do use his atm since I lost mine. I gave his account number to my friend who sent some amount of money to me. So, in order not to spend the money anyhow, I asked him to keep certain part of the money for me.) So, I went to him and asked for my money which he gladly told me some issues came up and he had to settle them with my money. On hearing that I was dumbfounded. I felt my whole world was crumbling down and then depression sets in.
 Come to think of it, I desperately needed the money to run my assignments, buy textbooks and run my EDP project. Guess what, for the next two months I drank garri happily so to say. 

 I ignorantly made a decision not to trust anybody in this life again because the people I trusted betrayed me. Until recently, I missed out on an amazing investment opportunity because I used to think everyone would do the same thing - scam me (- permit me to use this word). Alas, I was wrong because Friends who invested are smiling now. I then realise there's more to life than depression because in the real sense I just found two humans who are not trustworthy and responsible.



What happened next?

 When all this happened my life turned up-side down.  I became a bitter person. I kept to myself, my self-esteem was dead. I had unexplainable mood swings. Restlessness and sleeplessness also came on board.

 Tips: Here are the symptoms of depression as experienced by me. 

 1. Continuous feeling of worthlessness or guilt
2. Withdrawal from family & friends to self
3. Sleeplessness
4. Restlessness
5. Fatigue 
6. Persistent thoughts of suicide
7. Unexplainable mood swings
8. Loss of appetite
9. Lower self-esteem

 How I conquered depression?

It was so serious I nearly defied my admission and by then I was about to enter my final year but thank God I didn’t quit. Ok, let me continue with how I conquered this beast called “depression”.  I went for a cell meeting on Sunday evening. When I got there I saw a lady she was just the only one in her room. I was shy and I decided to keep to myself and wait for others to come. She asked me questions concerning my academics hoping to start a conversation with me. I ignored her but she was persistent and so after sometime, I began to talk to her. I told her I was fed up with schooling and I intend to quit. She was surprised and amazed how a young guy like me wanted to ruin my life because of two beings. She advised me and even called a friend of hers to counsel me. After that day she would call and message me to advise me. Gradually, she became a close-friend and whenever I had issues I told her. She would listen without condemning me and she would advise me. This went a long way as it helped me out of depression.

Tips: When you are depressed please try sharing your problem with the right persons; so you could be counselled rightly. Don't die in silence. The earlier the better. You might also consider seeing a professional to help you with this; if the need arises. Please don't keep to yourself. Make sure you talk to someone. 
Also, embrace positive emotions (positive emotions aids good health while negative emotions destroys one's health). Let me make this simple; below are the positive emotions to encourage:
1. Love
2. Gratitude
3. Determination
4. Flexibility
5. Vitality (exercise, eat good food, feel good, finding time to rest and relax).
Thanks for giving me audience. Feel free to drop your comment below.








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